4. Kinship & Consent

At Folleterre, we gather as kin. Kinship here does not mean family by blood, but a chosen family — thea weavingweb of bondsqueer throughconnection care,that play,transcends age, culture, gender, and presence.background. Every person who arrives is invited into this web, whether for a dayday, a week, or for a lifetime.

Kinship inas chosen family
Faerie culturekinship is notfluid. aboutSome sameness.bonds Weare come with different backgrounds, languages, bodies, desires,deep and wounds.lasting, others brief and playful. What unites us is not identitysameness, but intention:the shared intention to live together in ways that honor freedom, dignity,creativity, and love. Kinship at Folleterre is about creating space where all parts of us — our joy, our wounds, our play, our silence — are welcome.

Hospitality and welcome
Hospitality is a sacred act. To welcome someone at the gate, to cook for the community, to make space for a newcomer in circle — these are ways of weaving kinship. At Folleterre, hospitality is not only offered by hosts or stewards, but by everyone. Each gesture of care extends the web of belonging.

Consent as foundation
Because Folleterre is a place of intimacy and openness, consent is essential.essential. Consent is not only about sexualsexuality or physicaltouch. touch, though it includes these. ConsentIt is the foundationbasis of how we share space, food, stories, emotions, and emotions.

space.

TheWithout principlesconsent, ofkinship consentcannot at Folleterre:thrive.

• Ask, don’t assume. Whether it is a hug, a kiss, or an invitation to share a bed, always ask first.

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• Yes is sacred, no is divine. A “yes”true given freelyyes is a gift. A “no”clear no is alsoan sacredact —of it protects integrityhonesty and creates safety.

  self-respect.

• Consent is ongoing. What feels good in one moment may change inthe another.next. ItConsent iscan always possiblebe to shift, pause, or stop.

  withdrawn.

• Respect differences. Not everyone desires the same kind of intimacy. Some come for sensual play, others for friendship, others for quiet retreat. All paths are valid.

• Silence is not consent. Clear communicationClarity prevents misunderstanding.

  harm.
• Respect differences. Some faeries come seeking sensual play, others come for quiet retreat, others for friendship or ritual. Each path is valid.

Kinship grows strong when consent is alive. When people feel free to say both yes and no, trust deepens. This trust allows intimacy to flourish — not only physical intimacy, but emotional closeness, spiritual sharing, and collective joy.

Boundaries areas part of kinship. To saymedicine
Saying “no” is not arejection. rejection,It butis an act of honestyclarity that strengthens thetrust. fabricWhen ofboundaries community.are honored, intimacy deepens, because we know our choices are respected. At Folleterre, we honor boundaries asare muchpart asof we honor openness.love.

Consent in stories and images
Consent also applies tobeyond touch. Always ask before photographing someone or sharing their image. Be mindful when telling stories andoutside images.the Asksanctuary. beforeFolleterre sharingis someone’sa photo or repeating their words outsideplace of thetransformation, Circle.but Respectingwhat eachhappens other’shere presencebelongs meansto respectingthose eachwho other’slive privacy.it.

Kinship as dance
Kinship is not uniform closeness. It is a dance between closenessintimacy and space, connection and freedom. WeSometimes gatherwe todraw connectnear, deeply,sometimes butwe alsostep to respect each person’s path.back. When practiced with care, consent becomes not a rule but a rhythm — athe wayrhythm ofthat movingallows togetherkinship into harmony.flourish.

Oracle message from the Radical Faeries Egregore

Every “yes” you speak is a spark of the fire.
Every “no” you honor is a stone that strengthens the circle.

Consent is not a contract. It is a dance of freedom.
It is the breath that says: I see you, I respect you, I welcome your truth.

Do not fear refusal.
It is not the closing of a door, but the opening of trust.
When you honor each other’s boundaries, you weave a kinship stronger than desire.

Remember: love is not measured by how much you give, but by how much you listen.