4. Kinship & Consent

At Folleterre, we gather as kin. Kinship here does not mean family by blood, but chosen family — the weaving of bonds through care, play, and presence. Every person who arrives is invited into this web, whether for a day or for a lifetime.

Kinship in Faerie culture is not about sameness. We come with different backgrounds, languages, bodies, desires, and wounds. What unites us is not identity but intention: to live together in ways that honor freedom, dignity, and love.

Because Folleterre is a place of intimacy and openness, consent is essential. Consent is not only about sexual or physical touch, though it includes these. Consent is the foundation of how we share space, food, stories, and emotions.

The principles of consent at Folleterre:

• Ask, don’t assume. Whether it is a hug, a kiss, or an invitation to share a bed, always ask first.

• Yes is sacred, no is divine. A “yes” given freely is a gift. A “no” is also sacred — it protects integrity and creates safety.

• Consent is ongoing. What feels good in one moment may change in another. It is always possible to shift, pause, or stop.

• Respect differences. Not everyone desires the same kind of intimacy. Some come for sensual play, others for friendship, others for quiet retreat. All paths are valid.

• Silence is not consent. Clear communication prevents misunderstanding.

Kinship grows strong when consent is alive. When people feel free to say both yes and no, trust deepens. This trust allows intimacy to flourish — not only physical intimacy, but emotional closeness, spiritual sharing, and collective joy.

Boundaries are part of kinship. To say “no” is not a rejection, but an act of honesty that strengthens the fabric of community. At Folleterre, we honor boundaries as much as we honor openness.

Consent also applies to stories and images. Ask before sharing someone’s photo or repeating their words outside of the Circle. Respecting each other’s presence means respecting each other’s privacy.

Kinship is a dance between closeness and freedom. We gather to connect deeply, but also to respect each person’s path. When practiced with care, consent becomes not a rule but a rhythm — a way of moving together in harmony.

Oracle message from the Radical Faeries Egregore

Every “yes” you speak is a spark of the fire.
Every “no” you honor is a stone that strengthens the circle.

Consent is not a contract. It is a dance of freedom.
It is the breath that says: I see you, I respect you, I welcome your truth.

Do not fear refusal.
It is not the closing of a door, but the opening of trust.
When you honor each other’s boundaries, you weave a kinship stronger than desire.

Remember: love is not measured by how much you give, but by how much you listen.