Sensitive Community Content

Intro

We're faeries! We talk about stuff! Sometimes talking about stuff means expressing an opinion about racism, sexual abuse, lots of complicated topics which everyone has an opinion on. Those opinions can be very different and it's beautiful except when those opinions are the opposite of mine and objectively wrong and should be burned to the ground. How can we have this online space where every story can be heard respectfully?

When discussing this over the initial FOLLE setup call, we came up with guidelines which can be seen below. It is good enough for now, safe enough to try, and open to changes if you think it can be improved!

Guidelines

0. First and foremost, speak for yourself, and from the heart, as you would in a Heart Circle. The FOLLE is not a space for endless debate, but it is eager to receive your contribution and heartfelt experiences.

1. Some pages will be marked with a [Sensitive Community Content] at the beginning.

2. When contributing in a SCC page, please pick a color (ugly pretty i dont care pick one!). Sign your name at the top of the page. Then wherever you want you can add your contribution in the color you picked.

3. If you see something that you want to react to, do X

Here is an example of a SCC page:

 

Pimprenelle

Bookworm

I feel something and when I see people telling me that I shouldn't be feeling something it makes me upset. I wish for everyone to know what I feel like but I don't know how to do it. I had people who don't feel anything ask me to help them feel something.  It's nice they want to work on that but it's unfair to expect me to help just because I feel a lot of things.  

I don't feel anything and for me it is inconceivable that people can feel too much. When people say they feel too much and I upset them and I should be nicer to them I think they're trying to manipulate me and I ignore them. It's making me want to make sure in gatherings we have guidelines to avoid listening to people who feel too much because then all we do is talk about our feelings and no progress is made. I think the people who are feeling sad will feel sadder if the sanctuary burns down because we spent an entire gathering talking about our feelings instead of making the house fireproof.